31 Easy Valentine’s Day Ideas for Married Couples

easy valentines day ideas for married couples

Valentine’s Day can put a lot of pressure on a marriage. You might find yourself doing the same things over and over again. In this post, you’ll discover easy Valentine’s Day ideas for married couples that will put the spark back into the day.

What’s great about these ideas is that they can all be done at home without a babysitter!

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Valentine’s Day Ideas for Married Couples

Valentine’s Day is all about making your partner feel special and loved. The ideas below will bring you closer together. They require you to take a deep look at what makes your marriage special.

Unique Valentine’s Day Ideas

Looking for unique Valentine’s Day date ideas? It’s nice to mix things up with something new. Keep reading for unique Valentine’s Day ideas for married couples!

1. Get to know each other better

Can you name all of your husband’s childhood pets? Do you know your wife’s most loved food growing up?

Dig into the details! Challenge yourselves to learn more about each other. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • What is your earliest memory?
  • What kind of road trips did you take growing up? (Day trips, overnight, trips to see family, vacation trips, etc.)
  • What were your favorite family traditions growing up?
  • When did you get your first cell phone? What kind was it?
  • Do you ever wish you would’ve chosen a different career path?
  • It’s always good to get to know your spouse better. But this also makes for a perfect Valentine’s day date.

2. Design your dream home

If you could create your dream home, what would it look like? Get detailed and plan out what kind of house you would build together if you could. What would the layout look like? How many bedrooms and bathrooms?

This idea was inspired by my in laws. For years, they worked on sketches of their dream home. They now live in it! The house is so much more special knowing their love and teamwork went into creating it.

You don’t have to have plans to actually build a house in the future. It’s sometimes fun just to daydream together.

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3. Plan your dream vacation together

If creating your dream home doesn’t sound right for you, how about your dream vacation? I like this exercise because it helps start a conversation between you and your spouse. These types of fun conversations can help you voice things you might want in the future.

When Josh and I were planning our honeymoon, we let our imaginations run wild at first. We realized we’d both always wanted to go to Fiji and stay in a bungalow over the water. We determined that it was too far of a plane ride for our honeymoon.

But it did get us thinking. It’s made me realize that I would love to go to a beach resort one day. We may not be able to afford Fiji, but there are cheaper options a lot closer to home.

It was thanks to our daydreaming that we allowed ourselves to discover actual wants that we can plan for.

4. Write notes

Have you ever given your spouse a handwritten note? The small extra effort you put forth to write out a note goes a long way. For this Valentine’s Day, write several notes and leave them around the house. Each note could be about a different topic.

Here are some ideas:

  • A favorite memory together
  • Something you love about your spouse’s character
  • Something your spouse does that makes you feel special or loved
  • Something you’re looking forward to with your spouse (an upcoming vacation or date)

You’ll love this post about how we use notes to connect.

5. Start a love note journal

Purchase a nice journal and start a new tradition this Valentine’s Day. Every year, you’ll write each other a love note. Make sure to include the date. As the years pass, this will be a very special document of your marriage together.

What’s great is that you can easily modify this. You don’t have to limit this journal to Valentine’s Day. You can write in it every anniversary or special day.

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6. Do a craft

Work together to create something new for your home. Or get an early start on birthday presents for loved ones! Bonus points if you learn a new skill together!

Painting has become one of the most popular crafts for a date night. The idea is that you create something together and connect while doing it.

7. Have a sleepover

Have you and your spouse ever slept in a room besides your bedroom? Switching up where you spend the night can make things extra special. Here’s how to do it:

  • Choose a room you don’t normally sleep in, like your living room
  • Stack blankets or bring an air mattress for maximum comfort
  • Bonus option: fall asleep watching a movie together

8. Take the day off

Go ahead and take your kids to school but call in “sick” to work. Stay home with your spouse and enjoy the day together! While you’re at it, pick another idea from this list to do together.

The extra time together will help you recharge your marriage.

Valentine’s Day Ideas for Her

1. Get a romantic date from Romance Enhanced

If you’re looking for a Valentine’s Day surprise for your wife, this is a great option! I can’t make a Valentine’s Day post without mentioning Josie from Romance Enhanced. Her passion is to help couples bring romance back into the relationship.

She offers romantic date boxes as well as custom romance dates. She will plan an entire romantic date for you.

You can read my interview of Josie here and watch my unboxing of her massage box below.

2. Have an appreciation day

Women love to feel appreciated. Dedicate the entire day to recognizing everything you appreciate about your wife. She will feel so loved by the end of the day!

This is a conversation Josh and I have had a lot. We know we appreciate each other.

But we don’t always show it well. Life gets in the way and we forget to show our appreciation. We speak up when we’re not feeling appreciated. That helps us know when something needs to change.

Are you actively doing things to make your wife feel appreciated? Valentine’s Day is a great time to start this very healthy habit!

3. Have a spa night

A spa night is a great idea, particularly if your wife has been extra stressed lately. Tell her that you’ve noticed how hard she’s been working and that she deserves some relaxation. She will be very grateful for the attention!

Purchase a few different items for a spa night and relax together. This blog post has great ideas on how to create a relaxing atmosphere for your at home spa night.

Other posts you’ll love:

To the Husbands Who Travel for Work: How to Connect with Your Wives

19 Lasting Ways to Build Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

13 Amazing Benefits of Couples Who Work Out Together

4. Nice chocolates

I’m not talking about Hershey’s here. I’m thinking more along the lines of Godiva or Ferrero Rocher. Maybe some truffles!

Nice chocolates are a great idea if your wife has said that she “wants nothing” for Valentine’s Day. Trust me, she’ll be happy you still thought of her!

5. Conversation starters

Use some conversation starters to get to know your wife better. Sometimes it’s hard to think of something to talk about.

Once you’ve been married a while, you feel like you know everything about your spouse. But then you whip out these very unique questions and you realize there are still things left to learn!

Here are our favorite conversation starters!

Valentine's Day ideas for her

6. Do yoga at home

You don’t need to go out to do some yoga. Exercising together comes with so many benefits. Take advantage of these benefits and practice this relaxing exercise with your wife.

7. Make lists

You can get creative with this! Compare your lists and make sure to talk about the meaning behind each item on your lists. Here are some ideas:

  • Top 10 favorite movies/shows
  • Top 5 most memorable moments from your marriage
  • Top 5 most memorable childhood moments
  • Couples bucket list

8. Bake together

Have fun working together in the kitchen to make your Valentine’s Day dessert. These desserts look too good to pass up.

Here’s an extra tip: while your sweet treat is baking, use some conversation starters to connect.

Romantic Valentine’s Day Ideas for Him

Your husband will love these romantic Valentine’s Day ideas. Finding romantic things for Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be complicated. Aim to make your husband feel special.

1. Create a scavenger hunt for your husband

Creating a scavenger hunt is one of the most romantic Valentine’s Day ideas. You have to put some effort into it, but it’s worth it!

Need help putting this together? Here’s a great post that will give you some ideas.

2. Breakfast in bed

What are your husband’s favorite breakfast foods? Is there something special that your husband loves but you don’t make often? Valentine’s Day is a great time to whip out that pancake spatula!

Even if Valentine’s Day falls on a weekday, you can always do breakfast for dinner!

3. Cook a meal together

I love cooking with Josh because we use teamwork to create a great meal. We play to our strengths. For example, Josh is really good at cooking meat. I’m good at cooking pasta. While one of us chops vegetables, the other is usually cooking at the stove.

Cooking together is a great idea for Valentine’s Day, even if one of you doesn’t like to cook.

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4. Star gaze

Star gazing is so simple and sweet. Your husband will love this low key Valentine’s Day idea! Don’t forget to set out a blanket and a special drink so you can talk while you star gaze.

5. Give your husband a massage

Has your husband been extra stressed with work lately? Show him you appreciate his hard work by working on those knots in his back!

He’ll appreciate the relaxation. And you’ll love doing something that helps him.

6. Go on a walk

Exercising is so helpful for couples. Walking is especially nice because it’s low impact and you can talk while you walk. If you bring the kids along, make sure to have distractions for them. That way you can focus on each other.

7. Add a special drink

Special drinks are great if your husband isn’t big on Valentine’s Day but you’d like the day to feel special. It doesn’t have to be alcoholic. Here are some ideas you can incorporate into your evening:

  • hot chocolate
  • coffee
  • lemonade
  • sweet tea
  • cocktails
  • virgin cocktails
  • wine
  • beer

8. Have an at home wine tasting

Buy a few different bottles of wine and some of your favorite snacks to go with it. Talk about what you like and dislike about each. Go further with this idea by sharing memories of the first time you tried wine.

If you need help, here’s a great article with some ideas.

Fun Date Ideas for Valentine’s Day

When looking for fun date ideas, it’s always best to start at the basics. What do you and your spouse enjoy doing together? You can always level it up by adding in some candles and music.

1. Play a board game

A little competition can be healthy for a marriage. But if you’re not up for competing, there are great cooperative board games! You have to work together, which is great for working on your teamwork.

Board games are one of our go-to date nights at home. Need help picking a game to play for Valentine’s Day? Here are our favorites!

fun date ideas for valentine's day

2. Watch a movie

Can you really get away with sitting on the couch and watching a movie for Valentine’s Day? The answer is…yes!! Here are some ideas to make it a little more special:

  • Keep your spouse in mind when picking a movie. Is there a movie your husband has been wanting to see but you haven’t? This is a great time to show him he’s a priority. Or maybe your wife has a favorite movie that she loves. Surprise her by watching it together.

  • Make sure to stay close: hand holding or cuddling is a must.

  • Don’t forget to make some popcorn or any other favorite movie snack. You can also keep your spouse in mind for this one. Put together all of your spouse’s favorite snacks.

3. Do a date box together

Josh and I love date box subscriptions! They provide everything you need for a date at home. Depending on the company you choose, your date will be more focused on simplicity, fun, or romance. Overall, date boxes help you connect.

Here are our favorites:

4. Have a karaoke night

Here’s a free app so you can do karaoke from the comfort of your living room. There’s so much you can do with this idea! Make sure to mix up the tunes between oldies and newer songs. You can do some duets or put on performances for each other.

5. Do a challenging puzzle

Are either of you very analytical? Putting a puzzle together makes you work on your teamwork and puts your brains to work. Puzzles are nice because they are very low-key. If you get frustrated, you can always go back to them later. There’s no pressure with a puzzle.

6. Watch an old favorite show

With streaming services, it’s so easy to go back and watch a show you used to love when you were a kid. It’s even better if only one of you has seen the show. You get to share a part of your childhood with your spouse.

A few years ago, Josh learned I had never watched the Little House on the Prairie series. After showing me a few episodes, I was hooked! We now own all the DVDs and plan on rewatching them again in the future. It was a lot of fun to watch them together.

7. Have a picnic inside

Depending on where you live, you probably don’t want to have a picnic outside in February. So why not bring it indoors? Move the furniture out of the way, lay a blanket down, and set up your picnic.

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Plans for Valentine’s Day

Need help picking one of the ideas above? Not quite sure which one is right for you and your spouse? Keep reading to see my answers to some common questions.

How can I celebrate Valentine’s Day with my husband?

If you’re trying to figure out what to do on Valentine’s Day with your husband, take his love language into consideration. Don’t know each other’s love languages? Click here to take a quiz!

Love languages are so important. Everyone feels differently about how they want to receive love. Your husband’s love language will help you decide what to do on special days like Valentine’s.

What can I do with my wife for Valentine’s Day?

Wondering what to do on Valentine’s Day with your wife? You don’t need to plan the perfect Valentine’s date. Wives want to feel appreciated. If you put forth the effort and try to keep things she likes in mind, you’ll have a good chance of making her happy.

You’ll also want to take into consideration:

  • cost
  • babysitters
  • time constraints
  • planning ahead that’s required (what materials do you need?)

How can I celebrate Valentine’s Day at home with my wife?

Talk to your wife beforehand and discuss some simple, low-key options to make Valentine’s Day special at home. Including her in the plans will make her feel heard.

With the demands of work and the kids, it can be hard to go out every Valentine’s Day. And that’s completely ok!

What can I do for my husband on Valentine’s Day with no money?

There’s so much you can do for your husband on Valentine’s Day if you’re limited on cash! Follow this simple process to make your day special together:

  • Look around your house: What can you use for Valentine’s Day? Can you leave notes around the house for your husband? Do you have the ingredients for a meal that you can cook together? Do you have a favorite board game you haven’t played in a while?
  • Set the mood: Dim lights, play soft music, and turn on some candles. Changing the ambiance of your house will make the occasion feel more special.
  • Remember that spending time together is what’s most important: You don’t need to spend a lot of money to make the day special. Dedicated time together is all that matters in the end. Focus on that and you’ll have a wonderful day!

When your husband does nothing for Valentine’s Day

Not everyone likes this holiday. If your husband ignores Valentine’s Day, have you thought about the reason why? Maybe he:

  • Doesn’t like the pressure
  • Doesn’t want to spend more money
  • Feels that Valentine’s Day is too forced. He’d rather make you feel special on random days.

Communication is key here. Have a talk with your husband and share what the day means to both of you. Both of your opinions and wants matter.

You both may have had negative past Valentine’s experiences. That will affect how you feel about this holiday. Share these feelings with each other.

Try to find some common ground if your opinions greatly differ on the subject. Here are some ways to compromise:

  • Do something small instead of big
  • Agree on having an experience together instead of buying gifts
  • Alternate years you celebrate Valentine’s Day
  • If your husband doesn’t like feeling “forced” to make the day special:
    • Decide on a random day to make special for the two of you. (Sort of like your own personal Valentine’s Day later in the year.)

Final Thoughts: Valentine’s Day Ideas for Married Couples

You can easily make Valentine’s Day feel special by adding the following things:

  • Thought behind your plans (this is the most important one!)
  • Candles
  • Music
  • Different lighting
  • Special food/drinks

What did you think of these ideas? Please leave a comment below and let me know! Happy Valentine’s Day!

About the Author

Melissa is a wife of 8 years and mother to 2 young kiddos. She has a passion for helping couples prioritize and strengthen their marriage after having kids. She knows firsthand how difficult it can be to connect with your spouse when you have little people running around, demanding all of your attention.

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